So as we all know... I'm single. Hence the title of my blog. It's not that I like being single.. Don't get me wrong, I'm one of the most independent women you will ever meet, but I would like to meet that special someone, fall in love, get married, and all that fairytale, happily ever after stuff. But to do that, you have to date! Dating is HARD these days, especially when you're a mom. Especially when you're a single mom. Lately I've seen so many posts on social media bashing men in our generation because they don't respect women. Now I've been on date after date where the fellow thinks that it is totally appropriate to expect to sleep with me after dinner. That's not ok, and it's not gonna happen. I've also tried the "online dating" route (per my friend's and mother's advice) and 9 times out of 10 the conversations lead to "dirty talk" in the first week or two which isn't ok, especially if I don't even know if you're a real person. (Don't get me wrong, I've been guilty of everything I'm about to say, one way or another, so this is from experience.) Now here's the thing, while all of these things are not ok to expect from a self respecting young lady, or any lady for that matter, women seem to blame all of their dating troubles on the men. Wrong. Ladies, you are only going to receive the respect that you demand, nothing more and nothing less. If you start dating a guy, and you immediately sleep with him, he's already gotten the ultimate goal, so why should he respect you or your body? Kinda like, why do you wanna buy the cow if you get the milk for free? If you allow a guy to come over for Netflix and Chill, why would he waste his money on taking you out for a nice dinner? If you put yourself out there as a girl that is easy, you will not attract men that have the goal to be a husband, you will attract a man child who's goal is to sleep with hot girls and get drunk every weekend. Like I said, you are only going to receive the respect that you require a man to give you. Do not bash men if you aren't putting yourself out there as a self respecting woman, with morals and goals. Let him chase you baby girl, don't give it up so easily.
Now for the guys out there:: if you only want one thing, let her know. Don't put on a front claiming that you want a long term serious relationship if all you're wanting is a casual relationship. If you do in fact want to settle down, let her know that up front, but also back it up with your behavior. Think how your father or grandfather cared for your mother or grandmother and treat your lady like they would've. Chivalry isn't dead, but it's a hard thing to find these day. A lot of us could care less about the money spent, we want the time spent. We want to feel safe, wanted, and loved, not lusted after. Now if you're a good guy, that has given all of the good things, but feel like "good guys finish last," don't give up, she's out there, and when you find her, she'll respect you more since she's been treated poorly by everyone else, and she'll realize how good she has it now! Just hold on.
